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Domestic violence services

Domestic violence (also called intimate partner violence, domestic abuse or relationship abuse) refers to behaviors used by one person to exert power and control over another person. This type of abuse can occur among different gender or same gender couples and doesn’t require sexual intimacy. Learn more about how to tell if it’s abuse from the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

No one deserves to be abused or threatened. If it’s happening to you, remember that you are not alone. Intimate partner violence happens in every culture, every country, every age group and at every income level. You can’t stop your partner’s abuse, but you can find help and support for yourself.

Create a safety plan

Safety is extremely important to remember when thinking about leaving an abusive situation. Here are some tips to help you or a loved one plan accordingly.

  • Call the police (911) if you are in danger.
  • Seek medical attention if you are hurt. All Advocate Health emergency departments provide injury care.
  • Think about what you will say to your partner if they become violent
  • Identify a list of people to contact and a safe place to go if your home is not safe. The agencies listed at the bottom of this page can help you.
  • If you have an order of protection, carry it with you at all times.
  • Keep a cell phone with you at all times.
  • Establish a code word that you can use to let family, friends or coworkers know when you need help.
  • Keep a bag packed with important papers in a safe place such as your car or a family member’s home. Include documents such as copies of your driver’s license, divorce decree, mortgage and financial papers, and birth certificates for you and any children.
  • Talk to your employer about:
    • Your right to time off to deal with interpersonal violence problems through the Illinois Victims’ Economic Security and Safety Act.
    • The possibility of an alternate work schedule and parking space.
    • Confidentiality about your schedule to outside callers and visitors.

Find help in your community

Search for local organizations that can help you or call one of the organizations below for more information. Your privacy will be protected. ** denotes safe house